I can’t believe it’s already been a year since my son, Hokuaola was born and a little over two years since I was born a mother, with my daughter ʻŌmealani…. AND yes, Iʻm pregnant AGAIN. In just three years I have been pregnant three times, thatʻs 30 long, sober, swollen months. Holy smokes! And No, this was not planned at all, but here we are joining the global pandemic baby boom lol.
My whole entire life changed when I became a mother. My music and message shifted along with my career path. My driving force, or “the why” behind everything I did, became about wanting the best future for my keiki. How many of you felt this way too? I feel like it can be a quicker adjustment for moms than dads because pregnancy quite literally takes over our life- our body, our mind, our spirit, all of it in an instant. We have no choice but to feel the affects of having a child when we are hāpai. For dads, it can sometimes take a little longer, but trust me they feel it too. Overall, that natural instinct to nest and prepare for your child is a real thing!
This new journey has taken me to places I never thought Iʻd be. Magnificent places like the GRAMMYs with our Hawaiian Lullaby Album, which was inspired by my children and some far less glamorous and literally stinky places too. I know I am so blessed to be preggs again, especially because I didnʻt know if I could even have kids only a few years ago. Now Iʻm having my third child at 35 years old… whew! Itʻs a lot. I know. But somehow weʻre handling it.
Raising a family of 5 means that we are quite literally running a business, but we donʻt actually get paid. My love, my partner, my baby daddy, Maka and I are literally biz partners. We have to plan menus and schedule things with our family team of care takers, grandmas, and ʻohana alongside of our own teams for our own businesses that we also run. Itʻs tough getting into the groove of things and weʻre learning so much along the way.
So I wanted to share some of my experiences around being a mom with you in the hopes that it can help and encourage other mamas or mamas-in-the-making. I hope to shed some light around the intimate moments, the intimidating ones too, the unknown parts and the hard truths around having and raising keiki.
Over the coming weeks, Iʻll share these stories in three sections on my blog from being hāpai (pregnant), to my intense 3 day labor experiences (yep I got to experience that twice) or to hānau (to bare/ birth), and hānai (to raise them). My hope is that we can commiserate together. I wanna hear from you too! I wanna laugh and (most definitely) cry together because we are all living in the middle of a pandemic and although the middle is messy itʻs also where the magic happens. Stay sane mamas and mamas to be! Dadaʻs you too.
All my aloha,
Kimie Miner
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